My Website is Ready, Finally

It's hard for me to overstate just how happy I am that my website, "Memoirs of a Hotwife", is finally up and running. Although I enjoy doing website development to a point, it is not my main interest, not by a long shot. Now that my website is ready, I can offer the special online edition of my memoirs which will include all of the original pictures and videos that go along with the true stories, all of the things that I couldn't include in the actual book itself. Eventually it will include my entire collection of personal pictures and videos, accumulated over all my years of living the hotwife lifestyle.

Naturally I have many memories that have nothing to do with being a hotwife. Despite what some people seem to believe, real hotwives have other things to do besides have have sex. We have to be concerned with our education, our careers, our homes, and, of course, our families, just like "normal" wives do. Our hotwife activities are something that normally takes place in our spare time, that time that is left over when our other important duties are done. Although my husband and I have been a hotwife couple for many years, there have been periods of time when we were simply too preoccupied with those other important things to indulge much in extramarital adventure.

That is not to say that I am a part-time hotwife. A lifestyle is not something that can be part-time. It is an approach to life, a philosophy, that one either adopts or doesn't. I am always a hotwife, even during those times when I simply haven't the time to indulge. I don't stop being a hotwife at those times, I am simply a hotwife that is too busy right then for play. Keeping things in perspective, the sexual exploits that a hotwife may indulge in are really just fun and games. They can be very exciting, rewarding, and satisfying but still just fun and games nonetheless. The more important things in life, such as family and career, always take priority, the same as they should for everyone, no matter their chosen lifestyle.

Having said that, I have usually found ways to explore my hotwife interests in my work-life and even at times when I have been really busy with other things. For example, back in the eighties, when my husband and I were extremely busy with a new business we had started, we still had loads of fun with a younger guy, Roger, who worked for us part-time. He even boarded with us for a time when he had some trouble finding an apartment. He was very aware of our secret lifestyle and would slip into our bedroom sometimes at night or early in the morning to have sex with me while my husband was asleep beside me. Mike got a huge kick out of waking up to find Roger fucking me on the bed beside him, my legs up in the air and me moaning with pleasure. Although we had absolutely no time for going out or socializing at the time, we still found a way to have fun and explore.

"Memoirs of a Hotwife" is intended as a place for me to share the memories and memorabilia specific to my experiences as a liberated wife. I won't be writing much about the rest of my life except where it is required to provide background or to put things in proper perspective. Perhaps someday, I will write a more comprehensive autobiography. If I do, that will be a project for years down the road. For now, I just want to get all of my hotwife memorabilia together in one safe place, to ensure that it is preserved for posterity. I hope that when it is completed, it will be a valuable and interesting resource for all those who are interested in knowing more about the actual experiences of a real-life hotwife.

What is a Hotwife?

There seems to be a lot of confusion and discussion over exactly what the term "hotwife" means. I have been a hotwife since long before the term was invented so I feel that I am qualified to render an opinion on the subject. Since this is my blog, I guess there is no one to stop me so here goes.

A little research on the internet will yield numerous definitions for the term "hotwife", some of which are pretty good and some which are just plain wrong. One credible web site defines a hotwife this way - "A wife who is sexually uninhibited who has the freedom within her marriage to enjoy sex with both her husband and other men". This is good except it leaves out a crucial part. A hotwife not only has the freedom to enjoy sex with other men but also has the active support and encouragement of her husband in her sexual activities. A true hotwife is fully committed to her husband and never cheats on him or deceives him in any way regarding her sexual desires or exploits. This is something that they do together, whether the husband is actually present during the sexual activity or not.

Simply put, the true hotwife couple are very much in love with each other and have progressed in their relationship to the point where it is based upon mutual love, caring, and commitment, not exclusive personal possession of their partner's sexuality. Most people recognize that sex is not love. The hotwife couple have incorporated this philosophy into their day-to-day relationship and have achieved a level of honesty and trust well beyond what is typical in most marital relationships.

Indeed there is a lot more to be said on the subject and you can be sure that we will be discussing this in more detail in the future. In fact, one of the reasons I started this website is to facilitate real discussion on the hotwife lifestyle and what it entails in real life, not in the fantasy world of pornography websites. I hope that members will put forward their questions and opinions on my discussion forum.

I do love being a hotwife and I wouldn't change it for the world. In fact, today I was a particularly happy hotwife. I have a friend, Sam, who called me last night to tell me that he would be in town today and would like to stop by and see me, if I was interested of course. In fact, I was not only interested, but delighted as he is a really fun guy and I hadn't seen him for a while. I did have some spare time this morning. My husband, Mike, was away at work but he likes Sam too and would be excited to hear all about it when he got home.

Anyway, Sam dropped by and we spent some wonderful quality time together. We even set up the video camera and took some video of the encounter for Mike to watch later. Sam and I go back a long time and have had a lot of great times together. When I have a chance, I'll write the story of how Sam and I have gotten to know each other so well over the past few years. I'll include some of the pictures and video we have taken so, hopefully, you will find it interesting.

My First Blog Entry

Hi there! Wow! My very first entry in my new blog. I've often dreamed of being able to share my thoughts and experiences on my own website and finally it is coming true. Over the years so many people have asked and, yes, even pleaded with me to create a website. Even though I have always wanted to do it, my main difficulty was to actually find the time to make it happen.

I realize that if simply wanted to post my material on someone else's website, it would likely be fairly easy. However, to simply hand over my memories and mementos without any control over how it is presented, just doesn't work for me. We all know that the vast majority of the hotwife-related stuff on the web these days is just professionally made pornography posing as the real thing. My personal memoirs reflect the actually life experiences of a real person (yours truly) and I simply couldn't tolerate them being colored with the same brush as the rest of that stuff.

The hotwife lifestyle is a lifestyle choice that is growing in popularity and there are many real couples out there that are exploring its joys and challenges. There are many more that are curious and would like to try. Often wives are actually scared off by the way the lifestyle is described on the internet and many a husband who would like his wife to try being a hotwife is thwarted in his efforts to persuade her by the way hotwives are presented on many websites.

I happen to know first-hand how good the hotwife lifestyle can be for some couples and I would like to see those couples who are interested get the information and encouragement that they need to proceed successfully. I hope that, by sharing my memories and experiences of being a very happy hotwife, I can help make that a reality.

It would be hard to overstate how excited I am about "Memoirs of a Hotwife" website, especially now that it is actually open. For a while there, it seemed like it was just a whole lot of work and I wondered if I would ever actually have it ready to show anyone. I almost gave up on it a couple of times. Now, with much help and encouragement from my husband, Joe, and others, it is finally ready, at least enough so I can feel ok about inviting visitors to see it. If you have any suggestions of how I can improve it, please get in touch and let me know.

Sharing my real-life erotic experiences with people who are genuinely interested has always been exciting for me. I used to spend quite a bit of time in adult chatrooms and have posted on a number of adult sharing sites over the years so it is possible that you may have seen a few pictures of me before. In recent years I've just been too busy to do much of that and I do miss it, especially the feeling of erotic excitement I get sometimes from meeting new people and sharing intimate chat and pictures with them. In the past I have met a number of wonderful sexual playmates that way and I hope that now, with my own website, I will meet be able to meet more, in a virtual sense at least but hopefully in real life as well.

I will be writing in my blog and adding new material here every week so feel free to come back here often.

Have a wonderful day. Hope to see you soon... Julie